24/7 in Real (by Meadow)

This post is inspired by the side comments about 24/7 in SL and RL in Gemma’s post and the subsequent comments.

I am occasionally asked what it’s like to be living with my Master 24/7. What comes immediately to mind when I hear that question is a paraphrase of an old fake movie ad about being gay:

*drum roll*

“They worked at their jobs! They shopped for groceries! They even went to the movies! They lived . . . The Master/slave Lifestyle! SEE . . . them do their laundry! HEAR . . . them order the local take-out! FEEL . . . your spine tingle as they watch TV!”

Gemma said that she and her Master imagined ”an integrated form of vanilla and the lifestyle, becoming a part of our life, eventually blurring the lines between the two.” And I think it’s exactly like that, although I might spin it a little differently. Life together in real involves basic life partnership stuff between adults, which to my mind is the same regardless if one is vanilla, D/s, gay, poly, etc. Then integrated into the functional structure of an adult life partnership one has the dynamics of vanilla, for example. Or D/s.

The adult life partnership is where one’s own relationship interfaces with the rest of the world. Money needs to be earned, dishes need to be done, mortgages need to be paid, someone has to walk the dog. Retirement needs looked after. None of that stuff cares if I call Ryn Master or Hey You, what gets it done is if we both get out of bed and take care of business. And details of protocol won’t even rate the back burner if one of us is in the cardiac care unit.

So most of the time, from the outside, our relationship looks like . . . well, like life. Pass the Chinese take-out container, please, my Master!