Often Trust is talked of as secondary to honesty.....but where does trust fit into Y/your D/s relationship? and into Y/your lives in general? This week (Monday 29th October at 1pm SLT) as W/we continue O/our journey through the service exploration worksbook "Where I am Led" by Christina Parker W/we ponder Trust.
Where does trust sit within Y/your D/s relationship....and what about the D/s lifestyle and the communities within it? Who can W/we trust to give U/us good information? to teach U/us? to guide U/us? Who do Y/you trust?
“Service begins when trust is given and end when trust is broken”
“You can trust everyone to be human, with all the quirks and inconsistencies we humans display, including disloyalty, dishonesty and downright treachery. We are all capable of the entire range of human behavior, given the circumstances, from absolute saintliness to abject depravity. Trusting someone to limit their sphere of action to one narrow band on the spectrum is idealistic and will inevitably lead to disappointment.
On the other hand, you can decide to trust that everyone is doing their best according to their particular stage of development, and to give everyone their appropriate berth. For this to work, you have to trust yourself to make and have made the right choices that will lead you on the path to your healthy growth. You have to trust yourself to come through every experience safely and enriched. But don’t trust what I am saying. Listen and then decide for yourself. Does this information sit easily in your belly? You know when you trust yourself around someone because your belly feels settled and your heart feels warm.”
― Stephen Russell
As always W/we will also be considering two "thoughts for the day" - one surrounding "Punishment" and one looking at "The emotional and spiritual side of D/s"
Please do join U/us on Monday at 1pm SLT at The Temple of Discussion on Respect sim. Bring Y/your experiences, thoughts and questions....or just sit and listen to U/us babbling ;o)
The discussion will be led in voice but as always text is also welcome.
5 comments:
Thank you for posting this. I am just checking here (as I can't get you offline) if you wish to put it back to 1pm due to the start of GMT, as the US waits another two weeks before falling into line with the rest of the World:-)
good plan Sir, I was thinking it would be fine but would certainly be more convenient I think to change it.....will edit the post now :o)
Thank You.
Thank You for very much for the selection of this topic, the quotes and the wonderful preparation, Julala. I could not agree more with "For this to work, you have to trust yourself to make and have made the right choices that will lead you on the path to your healthy growth." (S. Russell) And yes ... this warm firm belly feeling ... it is an awesome indicator that one is most likely on the right path and is powerful in promoting things, in my experience. I am looking forward to the discussion!
Ohhhh here is an interesting link to an article in "Psychology Today", called "7 Misunderstood Truths About Workplace Trust" that is worthwhile reading!
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/trust-the-new-workplace-currency/201112/7-misunderstood-truths-about-workplace-trust
awesome, thanks so much for the article reference Mirjam - interesting to consider the opposite of trust not being "distrust" but being "control"....hmmmm...that should shake things up when considering control v trust in a D/s context....
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