D/s Academy Halloween Special

The Spooky News

GEL Respect, 31st of October, 2015
 'Twas the day of Halloween and all through D/s
DJ Rae's spooky tunes - You will be possessed.
All ghouls and ghosts, vampires, black cats,
Winged creatures like fairies, angels and bats.
No matter the costume, a good time is all we care,
Come to the D/s Academy, come if you dare!
You will tremble with laugher and dance with delight,
Happy Halloween to all... and to all a fright's night!

The Shrine is ready for the creatures of the night!

DJ Rae selected spookytastic tunes for Halloween!

Bat perspective

The undead shaking their legs

Princess of the night

The birthday child

M/s at Halloween

The darkwinged had dancing fun

Costume contest with prize money and gift cards

Lovely friends

Spookin' and Speakin'

The music of the night

Bodily Delight (by Rainer Maria Rilke)

Bodily delight is a sensory experience, 
not any different from pure looking or the pure feeling with , 
which a beautiful fruit fills the tongue;
it is a great, an infinite learning that is given to us, 
a knowledge of the world, the fullness and 
the splendor of all knowledge. 

And it is not our acceptance of it that is bad; 
what is bad is that most people misuse this learning
and squander it and apply it 
as a stimulant on the tired places of their lives 
and as a distraction rather than as a way of 
gathering themselves for their highest moments. 

People have even made eating into something else:
necessity on the one hand, excess on the other; 
have muddied the clarity of this need, 
and all the deep, simple needs in which life renews itself 
have become just as muddy. 

But the individual can make them clear for himself
and live them clearly 
(not the individual who is dependent, but the solitary man). 
He can remember that all beauty in animals and plants
is a silent, enduring form of love and yearning, 
and he can see the animal, as he sees plants, 
patiently and willingly uniting and multiplying and growing, 
not out of physical pleasure, not out of physical pain, 
but bowing to necessities that are greater than pleasure and pain,
and more powerful than will and withstanding. 

If only human beings could more humbly receive
this mystery which the world is filled with, 
even in its smallest Things, could bear it, endure it, 
more solemnly, feel how terribly heavy it is, 
instead of taking it lightly. 

If only they could be more reverent to ward 
their own fruitfulness, which is essentially one, 
whether it is manifested as mental or physical; 
for mental creation too arises from the physical, 
is of one nature with it and only like a softer, 
more enraptured and more eternal repetition of bodily delight.

 "The thought of being a creator, of engendering, of shaping"
is nothing without 
its continuous great confirmation and embodiment in the world, 
nothing without
the thousand-fold assent from Things and animals
 - and our enjoyment of it is so indescribably
beautiful and rich only because it is full of
inherited memories of the engendering and birthing of millions.

In one creative thought a thousand forgotten nights of love
come to life again and fill it with majesty and exaltation.

(C) 1903, Rainer Maria Rilke 

The vanilla category (by Mirjam)

"Well, they are vanilla. We cannot talk about such things with them."


Establishing categories.
Sorting people and things into groups.
Discriminating that this belongs to this and this belongs to this.

Adopting the language use that seems common in a specific group of people that one sympathizes with is something that often happens unconsciously. People simply use specific words popular in their social environment cause they can identify with this environment, got used to the labels and codewords used there and adopted them for themselves, often without reflecting their origin.

Since language is one element of the bridge leading to another person, and at the same time also the potential bomb that can destroy such a bridge, isn't it important to reflect on which terminology a specific group is using and why? 

A specific use of language can help to build group identity and pride. And terms can be like codewords that let others know, short in short, how You are wired. As such, labels may also serve the purpose of group recognition and belonging.

"Oh, and vanilla is nothing for me."
Sounds familiar?
 
In the moment that someone spoke of "vanillas", it would be clear that this person had a sexual preference that was differing from the norm.

Sorting people and things into label-drawers may help the human mind to grasp things mentally and have a reference point in language. So often, "vanilla" is used as a tag for people who are "not into BDSM".

a vanilla person = a non-BDSMer

So why don't we just say "non-BDSMer", I wonder? 

"The term vanilla derives from the use of vanilla extract as the basic flavoring for ice cream, and by extension, meaning plain or conventional. In relationships where only one partner enjoys less conventional forms of sexual expression, the partner who does not enjoy such activities is often referred to as the vanilla partner. As such, it is easy for them to be branded unadventurous and dull in sexual matters" 
[Nichols, Margaret (2006). "Psychotherapeutic Issues With 'Kinky' Clients: Clinical Problems, Yours and Theirs". In Kleinplatz, Peggy J.; Moser, Charles. Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures. New York]

Like racehorses do ...

Pee like a racehorse ...

Thanks to Abraxas for this awesome photo! Check out more ponyphotos here:
http://abrx.deviantart.com/gallery/39456548/Abraxas

D/s is .... - Add Your sentences!

I thought we could start a collection of "D/s is ..." sentences in this blog. 

I hope we get a nice collection that reflects the variety of what D/s means to different people and which impact it has on their style of life. 

Thanks for Your contributions in the comments!

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Flowers are blossoming ...

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