Trust in him ... good or bad? (by Aliyah)

Trust , 

i would like to share a little story from my not so far past and to give you a little pick in to my heart , soul and mind , share with you some of my feelings about trusting the one you love , the one who own you , the one who hold your heart . 

4 months ago i met the man of my life , my Master , Owner , Lover , Friend and Partner . 

he swept me off my feet and took me in to this "magical" world we like to call our life . 

we build trust and love , we respect each other limits , we understand each other failures and rights , we help each other when we fall and clean each other cuts , we trust . and for me to trust a man after been hurt so many time is a big issue . 

I thought  that after having so many men in my life that lied , or left , or put me down i could never find that trust in me to give to any one , but , he did not give up , he did not give up on me and on us and push us and our relashionship up to bloom like a beautiful flower . 

one week before our collaring ceremoney , someone told me , and i dont judge them , a lie about him that broke me , and crushed my world . i could have walk away , i wanted so much , but my light did not gave up , he did not release me , he stood by letting me get all my anger and cry out and then after i calm down and was ready to listen and talk , he talked to me , explain , talked more , explained more . i could have closed my heart and believe the lies , i could have closed my eyes and not look at this man i love and love me , but he did not give up , in the end we got collared in a beautiful beautiful ceremony where we took each other hand and neck and promise to always try to be there for each other , to be by one another side and for ever ever tell the truth . 

tommorow the 28th of December we are 3 amazing month collared and i could never ask for anyone better than him to lead me in this road i am taking . 

i choose to trust him after this case , i choose to trust our love , i choose to trust my man . 

i choose i was not force to choose . 

Trust is a very very strong word , it is something you work hard to get and can lose easily . 

please dont break Trust , please dont give up Trust so eaisly ....

please believe in Trust . 

here is something little i wrote about Trust , along time ago , for someone who broke my Trust . 

                                       TRUST





In a big castle, inside a big room, on a large table, there is a little box.

In the little box, inside a small bag, there is a simple rock.

On the simple rock, written in white paint, there is a powerful word...

                                     TRUST
                                        


In a far corner of the world, inside a far away land, stands a girl.

In the little girl's hand lays a beautiful bird.

On the bird's leg is tied a little bag. Inside the bag there is a white note with the word ...


                                       TRUST
                                       


In far away village, inside an old home kneels a girl

In the same home, next to a big fire place, stands her Master

Inside  her bright blue eyes, is written the word...

                                        TRUST



In a big wide field, with red ruby roses I lay

In my torn clothes, with my blue eyes closed

In my gentle soft body, inside my empty heart laid the word...

                                      TRUST
                                     
                                     

In my beaten body, inside my empty soul, in the upper room of my heart, your name will stay.

Because with your own hands you broke my rock , and you tore my note.

And you closed my eyes, and you emptied my heart of the word...

                                     TRUST

yours always , 

Aliyah .  

Christmas Eve - Monday discussion (by Julala)

Just a reminder that tomorrow (Christmas Eve) the "Where I am Led" series is taking a break and we will be having a discussion with a festive topic instead.

Christmas is generally a time for family, for celebration, for giving, receiving,etc, etc......but....what is Christmas about for YOU this year?

Maybe this year is a good Christmas for you....you are feeling good about the year ahead and feeling positive about your life at this festive time.  Yeay - come share that with us :o)

For some Christmas can be a more difficult time, perhaps a time when you find yourself missing someone more so than other times of the year, perhaps a time when your SL partner is not around so much over the holiday period and you are left feeling like this virtual world....and the real world...can be so crushingly lonely.  You wouldn't be the first ....or the last...to feel this way.  Come share that with us :o)

Does Christmas affect your D/s dynamic at all?  Do additional responsibilities get in the way of your relationship? your SL? or does Christmas present new opportunities for you to celebrate and experience your relationship?  Have you asked Santa for some new kinky toys? Come share that with us :o)

All welcome.  Discussion will be led in voice but text is also welcome.  Monday 24th December @ 12pm (SLT) at the Temple of Discussion on Respect Sim.

Next Monday (31st) will be New Year's Eve and there will be no Monday discussion at 12pm....but the following Monday (7th January) the "Where I am Led" series will pick up again and we will be discussing "Courage".

A Christmas Story (by P.Z. Mann)

Christmas Angels by P.Z. Mann The Whittles lived in Humbleburg, As poor as poor can be, But all their neighbors loved them, For their generosity. For though the Whittles' shelves were bare, Their cottage tumbledown, When Christmas came they made a toy, For every child in town.
One Christmas Eve they climbed in bed, After all the toys were made; And while they dreamed of better times, The Whittles were repaid. That night three Christmas angels came, To give them a reward -- For heaven won't let any act Of kindness be ignored.
One angel searched the cupboard And found just a crust of bread; "Now, this won't do", she whispered, "Let's prepare a feast instead!" The angels flapped their magic wings, As only they are able, And in a flash a flood of food Filled all the shelves and table!
The tiny house still looked quite drab, It needed to be cheered; And as the angels waved their wings, A Christmas tree appeared! Two angels trimmed the pretty tree; The third flew to and fro, Hanging bells and holly boughs, And sprigs of mistletoe.
Outside, the angels dressed the house With icicles and snow, And on the door they placed a wreath, Complete with a bright red bow! They finished all they came to do, Before the break of day, And as the Whittles roused from sleep, The angels flew away.
Now, when the Whittles saw the food And all the decoration, They pinched themselves and wept for joy, Then danced in celebration! As word spread through the village Of their heaven-sent surprise; Every Humbleburger came To see with their own two eyes!
The Whittles shared their Christmas feast- They emptied all the shelves; Their kindness wouldn't let them keep Good fortune to themselves. When everyone had cleaned their plate, They all joined in a song; And up above-though no one heard- The angels sang along!

source:
http://www.infostarbase.com/holidays/christmas/christmas_angles.php


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when i am alone .... (by Aliyah)

Last night , after Daddy went to work i lay in bed , closed my eyes and taught about what who i am with out him , do not get me wrong i am not a door mat but i know who i am with out him and what is the power he give me when i am with him .

so while i lay in bed i wrote this : 

with out i am nothing 

no air or breath 

with out you i am nothing

 no light or sun
 with out you i am nothing
 no smile or laugh
 with out you i am nothing
no happy time only sad
 with out you i am nothing
 take the time to think of sad ....
 with you i am all
 all fun and game
 with you i am all
 the sun the sky the air
 with you i am all
 nothing can brake me down
 with you i am all
 the power , the love , the care .

Think about it before you pick a fight or choice to go what are you with out him or her , with out that spacial one in your life . 

Aliyah 2012

Where I am Led - Part 14 - Growth (by Julala)

We often talk of our "journeys" through D/s, and through life in general.  We've already spoken much about learning and understanding in earlier sessions...so now...on these journeys of learning and understanding....where are we led?  How do we grow as we travel our paths?

Growth 

Does a D/s relationship give more opportunity for growth? Why?  Do we become "better people"?  Do we expand our horizons?  Grow intellectually? Cognitively? Emotionally?  Would we not do those things as effectively in a vanilla relationship?

Last week we asked what are the things that make us consider a relationship a successful one....and certainly growth was considered by some to be a vital component.  If we don't see growth in ourselves and our partners...does this mean the relationship is failing in some way?

In contrast....when a person grows...how likely is it that they will outgrow the relationship?   Are you guilty of holding your partner back for fear of them growing away from you?  Do you restrict your own ability to grow by allowing the past to hold you back?

How much does growth rely on pushing (or being pushed ) out from our own comfort zones? And how do you manage the delicate balance needed when encouraging your partner to expand those comfort zones?  Do submissives often put too much responsibility on their Dominants to foster their own growth?  Is it appropriate for a submissive to consider or influence the growth of their Dominant?

As time permits we'll also pick up the "thought of the day" that we missed last week, which considers when (and if) it is appropriate for a submissive or slave to be seen and not heard.  

These Monday discussions are using the service exploration workbook "Where I am Led" by Christina Parker as a point of reference. However, you do not need to have read or even seen the book to fully participate in the discussion.

Everyone welcome.  Please do join us on Monday (17th Dec) at 12pm SLT at the Temple of Discussion on Respect sim.  Discussion is voice led but text also very welcome.

I Need... (by Amity)

I need you to hold me
I need you to kiss me
I need you to cherish me

I NEED YOU TO NEED ME LIKE I NEED YOU......

I need to feel the sting of your hand
I need to hear the sound of your voice
I need to feel your skin against mine

I NEED YOU TO NEED ME LIKE I NEED YOU......

I need my hair in your hand
I need your lips at my ear
I need your sweet sinful whispers

I NEED YOU TO NEED ME LIKE I NEED YOU......

I need my screams to fill the room
I need you to dry my tears
I need the world to shrink to only you and i

I NEED YOU TO NEED ME LIKE I NEED YOU......

I need to trust you
I need to believe in you
I need to give myself completely to you

I NEED YOU TO NEED ME LIKE I NEED YOU......

~Amityville Darkgoddess

Where I am Led - Part 13 - Success (by Julala)

Tomorrow (Monday 10th December @ 12pm SLT) we will be discussing success.

Savor your small victories and they will lead you to big ones.

What does success mean to you?  How do you measure your own successes and those of your partner?  How do you recognise the successes and reward them?

What defines a "successful" relationship?  and can a D/s dynamic make it easier or harder to reach your goals in terms of your relationship.....and your successes as an individual?

Do you allow your past failures interfere with your future successes?

“The line between failure and success is so fine. . . that we are often on the line and do not know it.”

― Elbert Hubbard

“Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. ”

― John R. Wooden

“Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself."

― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

If time permits we will also consider two "thoughts for the day", the first discussing the comment "There is no such thing as just a slave" and the second considering when (and if) it is appropriate for a submissive or slave to be seen and not heard.

These Monday discussions are using the service exploration workbook "Where I am Led" by Christina Parker as a point of reference.  However, you do not need to have read or even seen the book to fully participate in the discussion.

Please do join us on Monday (10th Dec) at 12pm SLT at the Temple of Discussion on Respect sim.  Everyone welcome.  Discussion is voice led but text also very welcome.

Bound (by Julala)

Where I am Led - Part 12 - Usefulness (by Julala)

"How can I be useful, of what service can I be? There is something inside me, what can it be?"

Vincent Van Gogh

Continuing our journey through come concepts of D/s, using the service exploration workbook "Where I am Led" by Christina Parker as a point of reference,  tomorrow (Monday 3rd December @ 12pm SLT) we will consider "Usefulness".

In your role of Dominant or submissive - do you consider your usefulness?  Does it matter to you how useful you are to your partner?  perhaps to your friends, and those around you?  

“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”

George Bernard Shaw

Some might say that a submissive is there to be used by his/her Dominant......but many would say that a submissive is often as keen to make use of his/her Dominant.  

Should the ways that someone is useful to you (or that you can be useful to them) be considered as part of a relationship?  How can a balance be maintained?  When the balance tips what are the consequences?

Time permitting we will also ponder two thoughts for the day, one looking at preferences in a D/s relationship and the second looking at how your actions and behaviour reflect upon your Dominant/submissive.

Voice led but text also welcome (please have ears so that you an at least hear).  All welcome.  Please join us to share your thoughts, your experiences and your questions.

Monday 3rd Decemeber 2012 at 12pm SLT at Temple of Discussion on Respect sim

Question 3 - Learning how to be a Dom, whilst wearing a dress (by Estos)

Is it too far a stretch to ask if you are a Dominant?

Rather than internally debate the subject telling no one of my self doubts - exuding an air of calm control, a serenity in my mastery of the world about me. :)

 I have of course, being an ENTP, come to the D/s Academy blog to thrash this thorny issue out. 

As I've already stated, I'm currently reading  "A Road Less Traveled"  By M Scott Peck.  It has been a cathartic experience so far; much questioning, reflecting, and... YUK... self doubt has been brought to the surface.   

Of course, Mr Peck, my new best friend, is very reassuring in his observation that pain is the substance of life.  It would appear I am very much alive - Yay!

Suffering = Pain * Resistance

But, you know, it takes two to tango, and I'm finding Estos is only as Dom as the sub he's topping - and as I have come to learn, a sub is only free when they're Dommed, so I feel I am having to pay my subs:  Not, generally, in Lindens, but more often in attention.  Should I even be bargaining? 

Each time Estos is out-topped by a sub I have that moment of self doubt:

(a) Am I a Dom, really?
(b) I'm clearly not a good enough Dom, so how do I get better?

And yet I found Sub classes, too, you know, subby.  Dom classes, too, Dommy.  It's like they're not nurturing, more developmental.

I'm clearly not suffering enough to make progress.

Anyone got suffering for me?

Where I am Led - Part 11 - Curiosity (by Julala)

Did curiosity kill the cat?   .....or was the cat just off having a fine time learning new things and discovering new lands....who knows?

Monday 26th November at 12pm SLT

This week, as we continue looking at concepts associated with (among other things) a D/s lifestyle or relationship based upon exerts from the service exploration workbook Where I am Led by Christina Parker, we consider curiosity.

A genuine desire to learn and grow is a quality that should be carefully nurtured. Feed your curiosity, but trim it back when it starts to overwhelm you.

Where does curiosity lead you?  Are you encouraged to be curious by your Dominant?   Do You, as a Dominant encourage Your submissive to be curious?  When does curiosity become an issue?

“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”

― Albert Einstein

“Her grandmother had once told her that one of life's best lessons was not being afraid to look foolish -- to just ask the question.”

― Melissa Senate

As always we will also consider two more thoughts for the day as time allows.  One looking at Needs and Wants and another considering how tedious tasks can be more pleasurable.

This is an open discussion.  Dominants and submissives welcome alike.  Voice led but text contributions also welcome. 

Monday 26th November at 12pm SLT at The Temple of Discussion on Respect sim.

Where I am Led - Part 10 - Honesty (by Julala)

My goodness - we've reached part 10!   And tomorrow (Monday 19th November at 12pm SLT) W/we will talk honestly about "Honesty".  We A/all accept that honesty is important in any relationship but what are Y/your experiences and thoughts about it in a D/s relationship?

"To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

How many of U/us are dishonest about the D/s aspects of O/our lives?  Is SL a place where W/we can escape O/our real lives in order to taste O/our fantasies?  Most of U/us certainly can not talk freely in a vanilla world about O/our D/s lives....O/our somewhat secret lives.....is this acceptable dishonesty?  Where is the line?  where is Y/your line of acceptable dishonesty?

“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken.” 

― Jane Austen, Emma

What is Y/you discover that Y/your partner is being dishonest with Y/you?  Is it a terminal to Y/your relationship?

How do Y/you display Y/your honesty?  Do people see Y/you as an honest person?  Do Y/you see Y/yourself as an honest person?

“To conceal anything from those to whom I am attached, is not in my nature. I can never close my lips where I have opened my heart.” 

― Charles Dickens

How honest are Y/you with Y/yourself?  That perhaps is the biggest and hardest truth to face......

Also, we'll ponder two more Thoughts for the day as time permits - one looking at reaching out to others in the community, and the second considering the time a Dominant gives to Their submissive - a privilege or an entitlement?

These Monday talks are continuing a theme of looking at some concepts of service and D/s from Where I am Led by Christina Parker - Y/you do not need to have read the book or own it - it is just used as a reference point.

A/all welcome to join the discussion, which will be led in voice so please do bring Y/your ears.  Text contributions always welcome.

Monday 19th November 2012 @ 12pm SLT at The Temple of Discussion on Respect Sim.

Do the cuffs catch on the keyboard? (by Estos)

Yeh yeh yeh, I know I'm getting paranoid.  Is it a neurosis, or have I got a character disorder?

2135  - and no reminder of the homework we were given last week.


Maybe I'm just going Quackers


Maybe, unlike BB, I've just not got my teeth into my issues with time management.

Or, as I was brought to self awareness and reflection, reading 'The Road less traveled' by Mr Peck, at 0300 on Saturday morning (yeh, there's stuff on my mind),  maybe my issue is with my value as a person.

Oh, I feel another question coming up......

Honestly, I don't know what I'll be doing on my Mondays once this series is finished (don't tell me how many we've done or how few are left) *holds his hands over his ears*



“Human beings are poor examiners, subject to superstition, bias, prejudice, and a PROFOUND tendency to see what they want to see rather than what is really there.”
― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth 

I've got problems, and damn it I don't want to deal with them, it's too difficult!  Can't someone just make me happy?....

“It is in the whole process of meeting and solving problems that life has meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually. It is through the pain of confronting and resolving problems that we learn.”
― M. Scott Peck

My man of the moment, my book of the week :)

Subby Circle - at the D/s Academy subs haven - 1pm SLT (by Julala)

Tonight (13th Nov) we see the start of a new session at the sub haven at D/s Academy.  The subby circle takes place at 1pm SLT (at the same time that the Dom/me only discussion takes place downstairs at The Temple of Discussion)

What is the subby circle?  It is an opportunity for peer support.  Bring and share your stories, questions, worries, and experiences.  If you've had a rough day/week/time or you are worried about something with your Dominant, your relationship or other aspects in your life - bring them to the circle.  If there's something you've been wondering about but were too afraid to ask.....bring it to the circle.  Or, if you prefer....just come and sit with friends, listen and chat as we offer each other some support.

Let's see where it goes and see how it grows :o)

On occasion there may be a topic for the day, but more often the topics will be brought by you.  Sessions will usually be led in voice with support for text chat as well.  All submissives welcome.

Thursdays at 12pm SLT at subs haven on Respect.  If you don't have a LM please do IM me or any member of staff at D/s Academy.

Where I am Led - Part 9 - Commitment (by Julala)

uh oh....in the words of a certain duck....I mentioned the "C" word!  Have Y/you stopped reading already?

Tomorrow (Monday 12th Nov at 12pm SLT) W/we continue looking at some concepts of service and D/s from Where I am Led by Christina Parker and will be considering commitment.  

A person's life is limited but serving the people is limitless. I want to devote my limited life to serving the people limitlessly.  

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Some fear commitment, some crave it, some give it, some form the basis of their morals upon it.  But what does commitment mean to you?  And does a D/s relationship need or imply a greater certainty of it?

Some might suggest that many people come to D/s because they see it as a panacea to all their previous "vanilla" relationship failures....that there is somehow a guarantee of deliverance of commitment.  Others might say that many who in D/s that are just in it for the game, the play, the ego, and have no commitment to caring for their partners or the relationship.

Have Y/you found that Y/your needs in terms of commitment are easily matched?  Or has it been a challenge  to line up Y/your commitment requirements with a partner?  They either want too much of Y/you ...or too little....?

And what exactly are Y/you committing to? Is commitment global and all-encompassing....or could it be broken down into smaller chucks?  Made easier to....commit to?  Is there a time in a relationship when commitment to caring for the other...might mean that the best thing is to end the relationship?  Is commitment seen as a sentence to "be with" that person into eternity?

“All I'm saying is that you shouldn't stay with him for the wrong reasons, even if they are noble ones. No one owes it to someone else to be their [girlfriend]. It's a choice you remake every day.”

Aprilynne Pike, Illusions

Is the giving and receiving of a collar the D/s equivalent of the giving and receiving of a ring in some other ceremonies of commitment?  Or do Y/you consider it more? Or does collaring mean something completely different to Y/you and not a sign of commitment at all?  

As always W/we will also consider two thoughts for the day as time permits.  The first looking at "Understanding rules, instructions and tasks" and the second considering "bratty behaviour"and its place in a D/s relationship.

The discussion will be led in voice but as always text chat is also welcome.  A/all welcome - please join U/us at the Temple of Discussion at Respect on Monday 12th November at 12pm SLT.

Gateway Storybook: A Lesson Learnt - by Allison Rewell

Gateway Storybook: A Lesson Learnt - by Allison Rewell: My Master and I were in Gor for three months. Often I would write stories, some shared many not. This was one I kept and never shared. ...

http://gatewaystorybook.blogspot.ch/


Hi Allison,

I'm interested as to how you feel about this story at the current crossroads you find your self at, if in deed you are at a cross roads, or whether you feel you are merely Masterless, but still in the Forrest.

Also having read this, I want to read more!  Where will I find them?


Estos

ps. For those of you with an enquiring mind - I THOUGHT I was posting this comment on the gateway story site, not the d/s academy site, but it appears the blogger.com has other ideas!

pps. I have had two of my stories published on this site.. if you are interested as to what I allow my imagination to blabber on about when I'm not at Julala's or Zano's lectures or any other munches!

Making sense of the blabbering (by Estos)

Learnt 2 NEW things yesterday at Julala's discussion:

(a)  Zano has lots of friends but only one he uses*
(b) Julala's chat HUD has a new feature

To look at these in a little more detail

(a)  Zano only 'uses' one of his friends.  Which I wish I could quote from text chat, but he said this in voice.  I have to say, that this made my ears prick up.  Firstly, I'd not thought Zano was a user, and secondly, if he was, I would have thought he'd spread the love.  Turns out (most disappointingly) that he was referring to the fact that of all the friends he has (and, of course, he's a popular guy) only one makes things he uses.

(b) You can now @ people and Julala's HUD will identify who's the target of the @, who the originator was, and direct comments directly at the victim, I mean person.  What use is this I hear you say?  It's pretty good actually.  Take this fictitious example:

12:10 Zano: I think we should make a start now Julala, the late comers will just have to stand the ignomy of our tired remarks if they are late
12:12 Julala:  Of course, you are right Master.  Shut up everyone, I'm going to start lecturing you now
12:12 Emmaline: c
12:13 Julala:  Emmaline, you want to make a comment?
12:14 Pamela:  I am honest with my Mistress and with my girls alike
12:15 Emmaline:  I was just going to say that I could whip late comers if you want to give me that onerous task?
12:16 Estos: @pamela
12:17 Julala:  Yes, Lord Estos, we are all waiting in rapture to what comment you wish to make about what Pamela said
12:18  Estos:  I just can't believe that a Dragon can ever be honest.  It has no need to be honest.  if you don't agree wiht what it's saying it fries you.  Hmmm, crispy Estos. YUM YUM YUM


^^

ode de Ds (by Estos)

My days in the academy are a hoot
The same faces I know and love
Plus new ones, to boot.

If Emmaline's not feinting at the sound of a whip,
PrincessBygirl's quick to get in a with a quip

Zano's the one the girls like the best,
His sexy Scottish accent he should never give a rest.

Sparticus really knows his stuff,
And by Jove, Sir!  Is he really in the Buff?

Oceane sadly no longer attends
Carried away by a Master who must make amends

Mirjam is the one with a knowledge so full
Her participation ensures a munch is never dull.

Julala is the one we adore the most
She's witty and fun, and the most congenial host

Where I am Led - Part 8 - Honour, Duty and Integrity (by Julala)

This week (Monday 5th November @ 12pm SLT) W/we are going for a three card trick as W/we continue O/our journey through some of the aspects offered by the service exploration workbook "Where I am Led" by Christina Parker.  W/we're going for a hat trick by taking a delve into Honour (or Honor for the Americans ;op), Duty and Integrity.

How do Y/you feel about these qualities in Y/yourself?  in Y/your partner?  in Y/your D/s relationship - are they more vital in a D/s relationship than in any other type of relationship?  if so, why?  

Some thoughts from others:

"No person was ever honored for what he received.  Honor was the reward for what he gave." 

Calvin Coolidge

“....A craven can be as brave as any man, when there is nothing to fear. And we all do our duty, when there is no cost to it. How easy it seems then, to walk the path of honor. Yet soon or late in every man's life comes a day when it is not easy, a day when he must choose.....”

George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

“Honor was never taking the easy way when it was also the wrong one. Never telling a falsehood unless the truth was painful and unnecessary, or a lie was necessary to save others. Never manipulating the truth to serve only yourself. Protecting the weak and helpless; standing fast even when fear made you weak. Keeping your word.”  

Mercedes Lackey, Exile's Honor 

"Duty is the most sublime word in our language. Do your duty in all things.  You cannot do more. You should never wish to do less."

Robert E. Lee

"Your actions are a reflection of your beliefs. Integrity comes when what you do matches what you believe."

Christina Parker  

If we manage to find the time W/we will also pick up on the "thoughts for the day" that W/we carried over from last week - the first considering punishment and the second pondering the emotional and spiritual aspects of D/s relationships and the lifestyle.

Please do bring Y/your thoughts, experiences, and questions and join U/us....as always, I will bring mine to share also.  A/all are very welcome.  The discussion is led in voice but text is also welcome.

Y/you do not need to have read the workbook or have it Y/yourself in order to take part in the discussion - W/we use it only as reference point.

Monday 5th November at 12pm SLT at the Temple of Discussion on Respect sim

Whoa.. getting worried (by Estos)

It's nearly 20:30 and no post from Julala about tomorrows topic.

How will I get my revision done?

we can all cricle the fire.. but we must not get too close (by Estos)

I was wandering Blacksilk, minding my own business... when I discovered a natural wonder.

Something so beautiful, so powerful, and as I circled closer, mesmerized, drawn to my ecstatic doom...

Wizardry & Magic at the Halloween Party 2012 (by mirjam)

We had lots of fun at the D/s Academy Halloween Party on Monday, October 29th 2012!
Party motto was "Wizards, Witches, Magical Creatures" and DJ Nikos put on great music of the night!
Thanks to everyone who joined us and ohhh look at the photos and the wonderful costumes!

Oh all You creatures dark and bright,
it is not yet Halloween night.
Nevertheless to a party we'll go,
we hope You wizards and witches will show.
Also all sorts of  magical creatures we invite
to have fun at a party before Halloween night.
When the clock strikes 11 come to the Shrine,
bring Your costumes, Your (wo)men and wine.
A contest for the best looking three and yet
SIr Nikos will DJ a wonderful set.
So don't wait too long, get Your costume undusted,
there will be lots of fun, in this can be trusted!

Spooky atmosphere at the Shrine of Sounds

 

Witches, Wizards, Magical Creatures

 

DJ Nikos rocking the party

Awesome Costumes

Creatures of the Night

Alise and the Magic of Fire

Halloween Romance

Witches or Bitches?

DJ Nikos doing magic with the music

Leona and her magic crystal ball

The alive and the death dancing having fun!

The Shrine of Sounds Party Stage at Halloween

Which head is Angelita's?

The witch that whispas!

Halloween scenery

And even the ghosts joined the dance!

Careena

Did the spiders dance as well?

The butcher and the bat

Elisabeth the magic bunny

Where I am Led - Part 7 - Trust (by Julala)

Note change of time as Europe clocks changed yesterday - will return to normal when the US catch up ;op

Often Trust is talked of as secondary to honesty.....but where does trust fit into Y/your D/s relationship?  and into Y/your lives in general?  This week (Monday 29th October at 1pm SLT) as W/we continue O/our journey through the service exploration worksbook "Where I am Led" by Christina Parker W/we ponder Trust.

Where does trust sit within Y/your D/s relationship....and what about the D/s lifestyle and the communities within it?  Who can W/we trust to give U/us good information?  to teach U/us?  to guide U/us?  Who do Y/you trust?

“Service begins when trust is given and end when trust is broken”

“You can trust everyone to be human, with all the quirks and inconsistencies we humans display, including disloyalty, dishonesty and downright treachery. We are all capable of the entire range of human behavior, given the circumstances, from absolute saintliness to abject depravity. Trusting someone to limit their sphere of action to one narrow band on the spectrum is idealistic and will inevitably lead to disappointment.

On the other hand, you can decide to trust that everyone is doing their best according to their particular stage of development, and to give everyone their appropriate berth. For this to work, you have to trust yourself to make and have made the right choices that will lead you on the path to your healthy growth. You have to trust yourself to come through every experience safely and enriched. But don’t trust what I am saying. Listen and then decide for yourself. Does this information sit easily in your belly? You know when you trust yourself around someone because your belly feels settled and your heart feels warm.”

― Stephen Russell

As always W/we will also be considering two "thoughts for the day" - one surrounding "Punishment" and one looking at "The emotional and spiritual side of D/s"

Please do join U/us on Monday at 1pm SLT at The Temple of Discussion on Respect sim.  Bring Y/your experiences, thoughts and questions....or just sit and listen to U/us babbling ;o)

The discussion will be led in voice but as always text is also welcome.

Preview of tonight's casual gathering:

D/s Academy
Temple of Discussion
Friday Night 8pm SLT
Community Chat
In Voice and Text, you can type but please bring ears.

TODAY'S TOPIC: How we define Community

Start your weekend getting together with friends and family from our community for a casual gathering: All are welcome to this open chat.
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Please allow me to introduce myself, I am Azuri and your facilitator for this regular community chat. This is your discussion, I am your host.  I have a deep passion for Community and have chosen to emphasize topics relating to community. We meet every Friday at 8 pm SLT

For anyone with academic interests, there is a whole lot on Wiki about the subject, but I'd like to start with this bit >

A community is a group or society, helping each other.

In human communities, intent, belief, resources, preferences, needs, risks, and a number of other conditions may be present and common, affecting the identity of the participants and their degree of cohesiveness.

If community exists, both freedom and security may exist as well. The community then takes on a life of its own, as people become free enough to share and secure enough to get along. The sense of connectedness and formation of social networks comprise what has become known as social capital.

There are four elements of "sense of community": 1) membership, 2) influence,
3) integration and fulfillment of needs, and 4) shared emotional connection.

Questions:

What does community mean to you?

How important is community to you?

How does community influence you?

How do you influence community?

Do we as a community have common values?

Is there common protocol within community?

Are there unspoken rules or expectations within the community for its members?

What sort of guidance, education, or resources might serve to make a better community?

How important is Tolerance within the community?

Is it important to extend tolerance outside the community?

How do we reconcile differences in perspectives, interpretations, semantics, and individual values?

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I look forward to seeing you there and hearing your perspective!
in gratitude and service,
Azuri

blabbering (By Estos)

Do you find yourself lurking in discussions?  Thinking, I've got a comment (c) or Question (q)?

Then you whole heartedly throw a (c) or a (q) into chat and wait your turn....


Only by the time they get round to you, you realise that your comment or question has already been asked or made, very eleoquently, by someone else.

Last night it was brought to my attention that another letter in the alphabet can leap to one's aid at this juncture - the R.

R means retract.  I retract my foolish request to think I've got something to add to the conversation.

Anyways,  at the discussion last night, I was happily C and q'ing away, then r'ing too (mainly because allison appeared to be telepathically linked to me.)

But eventually, I had something to say, and you guessed it - I spoke.

I don't normally speak - other things going on in the house normally preclude this.  But last night I spoke.  Or rather, I should say, babbled.

When I write something, I can gather my thoughts, and review.  Admittedly, my spelling and grammar  can be waaaay out, but generally, I can articulate my thoughts. 

And this is not to say I can't talk in public, because I can. 

But last night I babbled.  Sometimes, I babbled in a coherent way, such that someone else would point out I was off topic, other times I babbled in a incoherent way.  I was still speaking english.


Overnight I was reflecting on this, and realised that my terms of reference are out.  I clearly can lurk, listening to conversations, thinking I understand, appreciate, but when I pass comment, feedback how I relate to what I'm hearing, I'm getting it wrong.

This is a revelation!  This could well be why I'm still mystified by the whole D/s, M/s thing.  I fundamentally still don't understand it.

Yay for babbling!

Now I need to find someone who speaks fluent babble to help translate.

Strictly Party! Restraints and Restrictions - 10/20/2012 (by Mirjam)

For the Saturday BDSM community party on October 20th 2012 we tried out a party motto that invited people to roleplay and emote as one way to have party fun! So the motto was "Strictly Party! - Restraints and Restrictions". We had lots of fun! I would like to thank Ruri for the wonderful DJ job and I would like to put spotlight on ellaEric who has done almost all of the awesome Halloween decorations on the SIM! Look at the photos to see which great ideas our Mrs Creativity, alias ellaEric, has had.

Greetings! (by Azuri)

Please allow me to introduce myself.  I am Alexadrianna Resident, also known as Azuri Deux.  You may have known me on another avatar as Azurianna Saxondale.  After intermittent breaks from SL while I was going through some life transitions over the last few months, I have returned in full force. Part of my transitions included making this new avatar, as a way to move forward. It is a very personal decision, but the end result is me being made anew!

As a part of my vision for myself, I rejoined D/s Academy as staff and will be posting here, more active in events, and present in discussions. 

I have committed to facilitating a Friday 8pm SLT "Community Discussion" (emphasis on community).  The community discussion is open to All and I am very excited and happy to see what manifests.

For now, I will leave you with a story spoken from my heart:

I have four cats, Ramsey, Rickey, Boy, and Sunny. 

Ramsey is very beautiful, incredibly so.  Ramsey tends to be needy. He’ll follow you around. All the time. He whines constantly, crying excessively for attention, 24/7. Then when you go to finally give him what he needs, he extends his claws and will seriously injure you.

Rickey is a lover.  He has never met anyone he doesn't love. Well, except for the dogs. The thing about Rickey is that even though he has such a good demeanor, with constant loving worship, there’s nothing much in the attic. He’s dumber than the proverbial doorknob. In fact, he likes to take naps...laid out in the middle of the boulevard. Needless to say, he needs supervision and confinement.

Boy is a fabulous cat. He was born right into my hands.  He was the runt nobody wanted.  So I kept him and he has been a pleasure to love.  He’s grown now and is like a miniature tiger.  He’s so much fun to be with and to play with.  He continually seeks you out and tries to initiate something.  But when you pick him up, his muscle become inflexible, and he squirms frantically to get loose. He will NOT be held. Then he retreats and sulks until his little kitty brain forgets.

Sunny is a treasure and pleasure to know.  Sleek, muscular, well developed. Beautiful to behold. He likes to talk. He’ll get right next to you and use his language and I’m quite certain he is saying something very meaningful to him.  He’s pretty much independent, except for the cat food. He doesn't waver at all when you leave him alone. But when you call his name, he comes running and becomes the most loving, adoring creature I've ever seen.

I was considering...many people react just like my cats.  I know I've been like all of them at different times. But when I make a cognitive choice, I want to be like Sunny.

With love and respect,

Azuri

The D/s Academy Party Hospital 10/06/2012 (by Mirjam)

We had lots of fun with The D/s Academy Party Hospital on October 6th 2012!
Motto was "Doctors & Nurses - Be Patient!" and DJ Nikos did an awesome job.
Thanks to all who participated in the fun event and came with costumes.

Therapists and Patients arriving ...

The Music Therapist - DJ Nikos

Nurse Princess and MaL

Aliyah and Knytro

Doctor Ruri, Mousie and Roxi

Eggsperiment Mirjam nursed by Princess

Prof. Michael observing the Hospital

Yuri

Romana

Patient Eclipso and Doctor Ruri

Slutana and Michael

Moon

Oceane and Sabi

Lunatic?