The D/s Academy is a project in Second Life. By facilitating educational and social events we want to help people with their questions about styles of life that purposely involve D/s dynamics. People looking for contact and exchange with other people who enjoy BDSM in its various ways are welcome to join in.
Check out the events calendar:
http://www.google.com/calendar/embed?src=1rs2kf7jlrpg45cic24vn15qn0%40group.calendar.google.com
"Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, actually very, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the "high" is all about and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone topping another so that they may successfully send their bottom into a very deep endorphin stupor! (Also known as leaving them in a big puddle of quivering ecstasy!)"
"One of the most fundamental human needs is the need to belong. Noted psychologist, Abraham Maslow, identified it as one of the five basic needs. We want to be part of a group and to feel loved and accepted by others. That is, we want to be a member of a tribe. A tribe-or a pack, clan, elected family, posse, crew, network, or true friends–is a group of people who share common interests and values and show genuine appreciation and care for each other.
Your tribe members are those people who accept you just as you are, and who want the very best for you. They make you feel understood, and they encourage you to go after your goals and pursue your dreams. Also, the members of your tribe help you to get through difficult times, and they provide you with a sense of community and support."
D/s offers a massive and diverse range of communities willing and happy to gather you into the fold. We all, at some point, seek community, seek to belong, and feel less alone. One of the difficulties of finding your tribe in a D/s or BDSM world is that you may not yet know "who" your people are.... maybe you're still in the process of finding yourself....who you are, what you need, what you like, what you want....and so your journey can become somewhat chaotic as you bat between finding yourself and finding your tribe. Perhaps you sometimes feel like you are bouncing around between understanding yourself, fitting in, feeling isolated, questioning yourself, and so on.
Which came first, the chicken or the egg? Which comes first, joining a community to help find yourself or finding yourself in order to identify your community?
People join communities in Second Life and sometimes they'll stay a while...and then they're gone...others stay longer, some return, some don't. Is it all about finding our tribe in among the discovery of our self?
What about when you think you've found your tribe and then one individual becomes a barrier in your feeling like you belong there?
What have your experiences been on your own chaotic journey? Have you found differences in how it all fits together when you're online and when you're offline?
Please do come share your thoughts and your experiences today at 12pm SLT (Monday 21st October) at the Temple of Discussion on Respect sim. Discussion is voice led but text is also welcome.
Grab your camera and your creativity and head on over to D/s Academy for the new sexy, saucy, spooooky photo booth!
In the spirit of the season, this month's photo booth has a spooky kinkiness all wrapped up in ghostly shenanigans. Lots of static and animated poses for singles, couples and groups to use....or if you prefer use your own poses to do your own thing. All creepily positioned within a dark, spooky cemetery to get your creepy creative juices flowing. Mwhahahahahaha!
Welcome fellow readers of the D/s academy blog. I know you are a curious bunch, unwilling to take what life has to tell you at face value. Well, I am here to put the record straight.
What was Mirjam REALLY doing up in the sky above respect? Let me show you - for pictures are worth a thousand words:
I rest, having set up Mir in her elevator
Fully in control I send Mir on her task for taking pictures
Continuing upward
Mir looking lovely in her innocent white outfit
Mir checks white balance
Mir checks aperture and perspectives - I also take off the top of the cage to help with framing the shot
with the roof off, Mir can get pictures without bars
Ooooooh my that is way high
Possibly too high now
The SIM of respect for all to see
Shrine to MarinJenn to the right, theater to the left
Celebrate kink! On Sunday, September 29th 2013 Folsom Street Fair took place on Folsom Street, San Francisco. It is supposed to be one of the world's largest leather and fetish events with over 400,000 people. Folsom 2013 was the 30th fair.
More info and photos on http://www.FolsomStreetFair.org.
KANSAS CITY, Mo. — A southwest Missouri man was sentenced to 20
years in federal prison Wednesday for holding a young woman captive as a
sex slave for six years.
Edward Bagley
initially faced 11 federal charges accusing him of enticing an underage
girl to be his sex slave, torturing and mutilating her, and allowing
others to watch and participate in the torture sessions. In January, he
pleaded guilty to one count of using an interstate facility to entice a
minor into illegal sexual conduct.
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"The husband is
the leader and has the authority to make and defend the rules of the
home. If he believes his wife is being dishonest, or choosing to disobey
or defy him, and that this behavior needs to change, he may choose to
punish his wife as a means to modify her behavior. A physical form of
punishment like spanking should be agreed upon before it becomes
necessary to administer such punishment. The wife must give her consent
to a punishment spanking - it is not forced upon her. This
consent should be given long before any punishment is ever necessary,
and the husband should hold the wife accountable for granting that
consent. Punishment spankings tend to be the most painful spankings
delivered by the husband, and are usually not commonplace. You are
unlikely to find a wife who actually derives pleasure from being
punished with a spanking."
A fun-tastic spanking song!
The Wet Spots - Spank My Bottom
2. Tension-Relieving Spankings
"When the
tension in a home mounts, it becomes difficult for the husband to lead
and the wife to submit. Unresolved tension leads to short tempers,
bickering, acts of disrespect and selfishness, and a gradual breakdown
of the authority of the husband and submissive state-of-mind of the
wife. A husband may choose to address the presence of tension with the
physical act of spanking his wife. This often proves more effective than
trying to talk through issues when both partners are uptight and
stressed out. Stressed out people often struggle to talk about their
bottled up feelings, so it makes sense to relieve stress before trying
to talk. The physical nature of administering a spanking helps the
husband relax in much the same way as taking other exercise might relax
him. Going for a jog, however, is usually only beneficial to the runner.
The downside of going for a jog (which is certainly a healthy way to
exercise) is that it does nothing for enhancing the husband's confidence
as the leader in the home. By rather administering a spanking, the
husband is helping himself rise to the challenge of leadership (and growing his confidence), unwinding through the physical act of spanking (ask any husband who has delivered a long spanking - it is physically demanding work), while
also helping his wife relax. A slow-paced, light to moderately intense
spanking may have a similar therapeutic effect for the wife to that
experienced when receiving a back massage. A spanking that is more
intense and which brings the wife to tears may prove even more relaxing
for her. For many women, weeping is an effective way to relieve tension.
It may be difficult for a woman to get to the point of weeping on her
own, particularly if she has been bracing herself to handle the extra
stress for an extended period of time. A long, hard spanking can help a
strong, very controlled woman with a high pain-threshold to cry, and
ultimately to relax."
3. Refocusing Spankings
"Long work
hours, too many commitments, and the general busy-ness of life can
distract the husband and wife from their roles in the marriage. The more
the husband and wife drift away from the traditional roles, the more
generic their roles become. Eventually their non-traditional roles will
no longer be distinct. They will share the leadership authority. The
focus will shift to equal workloads and equality in bearing
responsibility. In time, the marriage will lose a leader, and the sexual
chemistry between the partners will fade. Opposites attract, but
generic marriage roles produce "similars". The husband becomes a
quazi-wife and the wife becomes a semi-husband. A couple that once
represented "husband" and "wife" now begins to represent "spouse" and
"spouse" (which is definitely a recipe for putting out the sexual fire).
When either or both of the spouses recognize that this role drift is
happening, a refocusing spanking can be the ideal solution. Such a
spanking is not punishment for a naughty wife, and it is not
tension-relief for an overworked husband. The couple may be feeling no
tension in their relationship. Rather, they may be feeling more distant
from each other. A refocusing spanking reminds the husband that he is
the leader and that he has the responsibility of authority in the home.
It reminds the wife that her role is to submit to her husband, lovingly
and respectfully. The intensity of refocusing spankings may vary from
one spanking to the next. Refocusing spankings of extended duration are
best - they give the couple plenty of time to think about their roles
while each partner is acting out a representation of their role: the
husband spanks and demonstrates his authority, while the wife submits
and accepts the spanking her husband gives her."
4. Maintenance Spankings
"Maintenance
spankings are spankings administered at regular intervals. For some
couples, these spankings occur daily. Others prefer one maintenance
spanking per week, or spankings delivered with much longer intervals. As
the name suggests, these spanking help "maintain" the integrity of the
marriage roles. Much like refocusing spankings, but perhaps more
deliberate and less spontaneous, maintenance spankings help to regularly
remind the husband that he is in charge and the wife that she is to
submit to the husband. Some couples use the maintenance spankings as an
opportunity to address other issues with the result that a punishment
spanking may follow a maintenance spanking from time to time. Because
maintenance spankings are always scheduled and regular, they can help
ensure that couples set aside time to talk and be intimate (important
elements for relationship growth)."
5. Fun Spankings
"Purists of the
domestic discipline school of thought dissociate pleasure from pain.
They believe that spankings are purely for the purpose of punishment and
should never be enjoyed by the spanker or the spankee. These folk frown
upon fun spankings. But even amongst the purists, few will deny that
spanking does have an erotic element to it. This erotic side may be
completely blanked out during an unpleasant, but necessary punishment.
But even with a punishment spanking which is not sexual in nature, many
people report feeling more attracted to their spouse in the hours
after the punishment. Even a non-fun punishment spanking can have
long-term "fun" effects that encourage pleasure sharing during intimacy.
Fun spanking, however, have no element of punishment to them. Any man
with a healthy libido should enjoy the sight of his wife's body. Having
your wife's naked or panty-covered bottom under your hand can indeed be
arousing, and even more so when this tactile sensation is accompanied by
the slapping sound of flesh on flesh, and the sight of skin beginning
to glow. Because spankings help to emphasize the marriage roles, they
tend to encourage a greater sense of attraction between the husband and
wife. A fun spanking can easily be incorporated as a form of foreplay
which then leads to deeper levels of intimacy. A fun spanking can be as
simple as a few swats on your wife's clothed behind as she washes the
dishes (and you dry them, of course). It can be carefully planned and
complemented by sensual lighting and special clothing choices. It can
spontaneous - grab your wife as she emerges dripping wet from the
shower, pull her over your knee, and add some rosiness to her wet
bottom. The bottom line is that fun spankings are entirely enjoyable and
are not meant to correct behavior. They should not induce excessive
pain, but should be pleasurable for the wife and the husband. A husband
should always ensure that the wife knows when a spanking is only for
fun. It is important to make this clear at the outset so she can also
enjoy the fun. If she is left wondering what she did wrong to earn a
stinging, wet-bottom spanking, she might be entirely submissive but with
her thoughts far from the intimate playtime that the husband envisaged."
"A husband may
spank his wife for reasons only they as a couple will comprehend.
Domestic discipline is a very personal choice for a couple. It takes
courage to go against the norms of modern society, and do something that
you believe will enhance your marriage. Domestic discipline can enrich a
marriage, but not everyone will agree with that viewpoint. Whether
a husband gives his wife a spanking as punishment, for tension-relief,
to facilitate refocusing on the marriage roles, for maintenance
purposes, or simply for fun, it should be remembered that the spanking
is a form of two-way communication. The spanking is the husband's gift
to the wife, and her gift to the husband, especially at times when words
seem inadequate." SOURCE: http://oldfashionedmarriage.blogspot.de/2012/09/five-types-of-old-fashioned-marital.html?zx=697e8752c1e09fc3
. A tribe-or a pack, clan, elected family, posse, crew, network, or true friends–is a group of people who share common interests and values and show genuine appreciation and care for each other. 
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